This is a text filled post, but I think it's worth taking the time to read.
I cannot say enough wonderful things about the blogging community I have grown to love.
I have met hundreds of amazing ladies and some truly amazing friends.
Everyone starts their blog from nothing.
It becomes such a blessing to you personally as your blog begins to grow, you meet other girls with similar thoughts and opinions and you begin to connect.
I have bloggy friends who will say, "It's so amazing that you've grown so fast! I wish that would happen for me."
And while I am grateful for every single woman who reads my blog, I usually respond with,
"But with growth comes a lot of different things...some of them really not so great."
One of these "not so great" things would be a greater exposure to negativity.
I have no tolerance for girls who go around "tweeting", writing blog posts cutting down other women and anonymous hurtful post comments. A lot of times I think they believe these things are excusable since they don't directly call out the people they are talking about.
If you've ever seen one of these twitter cat fights, it can be pretty entertaining...until it happens to you.
If you've never had a rude comment on a blog post, a hurtful email sent to you or a biting tweet directed at you, count your blessings.
If you have, you know what I'm talking about. You want to just lash back and say "Hey, that was really ugly of you." or " I KNOW you're talking about me."
This is bullying.
Being a coward and not going to talk to that girl you have an issue with one on one.
Blasting it out on Twitter so your blogging clique will make you feel better by tweeting back "lol" or "you go girl".
What is the root of all this ugliness 90% of the time?
Let's be real girls. We are a mean breed.
How am I able to just call out this character flaw?
Because I just went through a terrible bout of this myself.
I have a dear blog friend. We used to talk ALL the time. We'd laugh, we'd help each other out, we'd share our 'secrets'. Then this friend's blog started growing VERY fast. Before I knew it she was doing "better" than me. I couldn't understand why I was putting so much effort into my blog, but she was passing me by leaps and bounds.
We always say that "follower numbers don't matter", but I know at one point a similar thing like above has gotten under your skin.
Throughout my friend's whole "growth period" she never changed how she treated me. She would still tweet me, message me and so on. The problem was with my heart. I found myself not wanting to tweet her back, not sharing cool blogging opportunities I found, and just distancing myself from her.
I was seriously convicted about this last week. I started a new Beth Moore study called Living Beyond Yourself. I highly recommend it.
I began realizing that I was the one with the problem and it was rooting from my jealousy of my friend's success. I asked God for forgiveness and promised myself I would not let myself be this way to my friend any longer - or any other girls in the future.
We are not in competition with each other!
The majority of women I know in the blogging world WANT to help each other - WANT to make close friends.
It doesn't mean that when you are on the bad end of negativity that it doesn't hurt.
I get accused of a lot of mean things because my blog has gotten so big.
I always stress that my biggest goal is to meet wonderful friends and help other bloggers in any way I can.
I can actually 100% guarantee that if you have ever personally emailed me, asking for a response, I have ALWAYS gotten back to you. I never just trash emails or don't take the time to respond.
These have been questions about the Army, growing your blog, being a wife, or just asking if I want to Skype. I always respond.
Now if I go back and look at all the negativity I've experienced one common thing holds true -
it always comes from a source that is either someone I don't really know or someone who has personally never given me the respect to come and approach me one on one.