You are probably wondering what this post is about.
I wanted to take a few minutes to chat about something that has really started to bother me and freak me out lately.
People gettin' down and dirty...everywhere.
By everywhere, I'm talking specifically in media.
I find myself watching tv or movies and I cannot believe the amount of things they are able to show or say nowadays. This stretches beyond just showing some skin or being vulgar - drug use is everywhere as well.
I just saw a show on tv where young boys were doing lines of cocaine and laughing about it. This was on regular tv, not HBO or another subscription channel.
My parents have been saying for years, "Things have gotten so bad in media these days...It's only going to be worse when you have your own children."
I just brushed them off and called them old fogies.
But now that I am married and will probably be starting a family in the next few years, these issues have really become amplified in the last few months.
I know that everyone is different. I have girl friends who are totally ok with going to strip clubs or having their boyfriend/husband go on their own. That's not me (and thankfully, not Ryan either). I also know that a lot of people are probably going to disagree with what I am about to say...but for every woman that disagrees, I bet there is a woman who feels the same as I do (even if she would never admit it out loud).
I HATE Victoria's Secret commercials. I only buy undergarments from VS, but I dislike their PR & marketing. They are supposed to be getting women to buy their lingerie, not make their husbands have delusional views of what their wife will look like when she gets into that said lingerie. I just feel like the commercials are not geared towards their target market. I am not fat...but I do not look like that. When Ryan and I were dating, a VS commercial came on and it was an excessively sexual one. It made me feel uncomfortable. Ryan must have seen me look down or something and he asked me what was wrong. I was just honest and said it made me uncomfortable when those kind of things came on. I didn't want him to look at other women like that. Instead of laughing at me he told me that he liked that I cared about that stuff and that I only wanted him to have eyes for me...and he probably stole 97% of my heart in that moment.
Now, almost a year later, he is still really good about fast forwarding through or looking at me when 'sexy-licious' things come on the screen. I love that he does that for me out of respect.
You may think that's insane and that's ok - I'm not some crazy controlling wife. He does that on his own and it is one of those "loving things" I so appreciate about him.
What's happened in the last few months is that EVERY show we watch on tv is filled with sex it seems. We have become so desensitized to it and it's crazy. Profanity and partial nudity used to be R-rated when we were younger, and now they are on regular primetime tv. I remember seeing my first PG-13 movie - Titanic. You know what was so scandalous at that time? A set of boobs and a hand hitting a steamed up car window.
PG-13 nowadays can have raunchy sex scenes, disgusting banter and profanity as far as the "f-word". Mind you, you can only use it once...but still.
About a week ago, 3 episodes of different tv shows back to back all had crazy nudity and/or sex. By the third show Ryan was like "What the heck is going on nowadays?!"
Could we have better tv choices? Yes. But there are few shows that don't go to this level anymore. Even my beloved Pretty Little Liars shows scenes or says words I wouldn't want my future child watching...and that's on ABC Family.
Is anyone else with me?
I look at all you mommas out there who already have precious little ones. Are you terrified by how bad things have become?
I feel like once I have kids I will have to completely restrict watching "our shows" until they are asleep or nowhere within earshot...which begs the question that if we have to do that, what kind of garbage are we subjecting our own minds to?
But I just struggle to see how I will give up my Revenge, SOA, Grey's and 500 other shows I DVR every week....
Oh brother...
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I agree with you. I teach middle school students and they are watching southpark, family guy, bachelor. They are to young. I feel so many shows are inappropriate for me but and I would never let my kids watch them. Andrew and I have had the discussion that we are going to have to change our tv watching. I want my kids to group up like I did not like how I watch my students
I agree with you all the way. I have been noticing this for a while now. I can't believe that some regular station shows say things like the d word or I've even seen them say arsehole or something. The sex talk, let's not even go there. I watch Two Broke Girls and I'm about to stop because it's like enough already! I get it, you will make anything sound perverted. It's like hanging out with a dude that just won't stop doing that to anything you say. It's so annoying.
My teenage stepdaughters have seen The Hangover. The Hangover for God's sake! I almost had a heart attack when I heard that. The things they watch whether with their mothers permission or not just makes me wonder. I think movies and things of that nature are just too accessible to kids nowadays.
I couldn't agree more when it comes to the VS commercials, but thankful we have the hopper and never watch the naked ladies in underwear. What really gets me is how they are allowed to say "GD" on T.V. I cringe every time I hear it. We've had to change the kiddos T.V. habits from Nick to the Hub, because of all the preteen content. Its only going to get worse because the major of the world are Godless and don't realize that there is a problem.
umm yeah, it's pretty bad. And once you have kids of your own, you won't watch any of your shows until they go to bed (but that's ok, bc little ones go to bed early). Every once in a while I will turn on the news when my kids are awake to catch the weather and all they are talking about is murder....sheesh! I don't really want my toddlers hearing about that either.
It does terrify me a bit as a mom, to know what my kids will grow up to. Every night we pray that the Lord will protect their hearts, minds, and bodies. We just have to pray and trust that even in a dark world the Lord can use us a parents to guide, mold and protect or children.
I really agree with you! I'm reading this book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" that addresses these topics. It's so crazy that the media sends all of these images at us 24/7 that we need to be so raunchy. Good for you for taking a stand!
Girl I agree 100% with everything you said in this post... Even shows on Disney, there's times when we just look at each other and say "did they really just say that?!" It definitely makes me more nervous about when I think about having kids!
I totally agree!!! We do have 2 small (small as in eight and under) children and the hubby and I are always talking how bad tv/movies have got. We are very picky about what they watch as well. And I have noticed over the years we can't watch things that we maybe once would have. For example we rented a movie the other night we had heard so many people say it was great and or funny etc. Well we only made it into all of 5-10 minutes of the movie and decided we needed to take it out. I am saddened by our media. Hope you have a blessed weekend!!! Cat
Yep! I'm only 18 and I know the media has gone too far! (Okay. I'm only 18, but I have four younger siblings and teach piano to kids, run kids community programs, and a middle school youth leader. I have the nick name "mama Caitlin.") I don't like these things being shown as normal! My 16 and 13 year old sisters don't need to see having sex with their boyfriend in middle school as normal. They don't need to see underage drinking as normal. Drugas as normal. Ect ect! It goes on and on! Or these girls bein taught their identity comes from how guys see them! And that's just not right! As a big sister this infuriates me! Granted, I don't want my sister to be overly sheltered and not be able to handle the world when they are older. But I also don't want them emersed in this! The middle school down the street from here has a major teen pregnancy issue! Middle schoolers! It breaks my heart for them!
I TOTALLY agree! As a former teacher, I was appalled at some of the stuff that my students (MS and HS) were watching. When I was a kid, there were VERY few shows that I was allowed to watch. While I was upset about it at the time, I'm grateful for it now. My husband and I don't have cable, which helps to limit the availability of shows, but is great for ensuring that our daughter doesn't see anything inappropriate.
The use of language and the overt promotion of sex and other risky behaviors is disgusting and disturbing. It really makes me sad.
I totally agree with you! Watching movies in an actual movie theater is almost out of the question any more because ratings have changed so much. All of this is giving the men in this world a distorted view on women.
Yes! Totally...TOTALLY agree! I could actually talk about this for days...seriously so i don't even know where to begin. I struggle with body image badly...it's many battle, but the media doesn't help. I whole heartedly worry about our young girls today...especially the daughters I don't have yet. I worry about helping my future son(s) not to view women that way. Single Dad Laughing had a great post on this topic. I may come back and link to it. Though it's more geared toward body image and men's part in it versus media. Sorry so lengthy. Good topic I guess :)
I agree with you about the TV shows, they have gotten way out of hand. But as for commercials, I think VS is right on he money. Women want to feel sexy and look great for their significant other. But the commercials like Hardys or Carl's junior or Go Daddy are outrageous. The sex that they play off in those commercials are not related at all to their brand.
I completely agree with you 100%. My husband does the same thing. Has your husband read the book "Every Man's Battle".... it's about this exact topic. My husband has been "bouncing" his eyes ever since... and we read that book 5 years ago. It's amazing how happy it makes me feel that he respects me enough to fast forward, look away, or not pursue that kind of visuals. I love this post.
Yes! I completely agree! I am raising two daughters and am very concerned about the images the media portrays for them. Not to mention protecting my son from the barrage of images he will be hit with as he gets older. There are many shows and movies that my husband and I have stopped watching, because we don't want to put those types of images into our minds either.
This is probably the reason I, along with every single adult, at my old school were disrespected on a DAILY basis. I was SO appalled at the youth of America...I always told everyone society is going downhill. It was enough to make me want to home-school my (future) children. I agree, Kaitlyn. When will too much be too much?
Girl. You hit the nail on the head with this one! Props to you for writing about it! I couldn't agree more with how raunchy and bad things have gotten in the media with what they will allow to be shown. VS is definitely crossing the line these days with how unrealistic their views of women are and I applaud your husband for being so respectful of you!
I agree 50/50. I don't mind the VS commercials, I mean if I had a body and face like those girls I'd be first in line to apply for the position. Although, If it's not the VS secret models men fantasize it'll be the women on the Frederick's of Hollywood site.
I do agree there is more sex, drugs and all that jazz on regular TV. It's down right disgusting. I have a 17 year old bonus son, and at 11 he could see this stuff on TV. His mom didn't mind what he watched, but I sure did. What the hell are TV producers thinking now days with all the raw television?
I couldn't agree more. I love that my husband will distract my daughters when the VS commercials come on. He has never been the kind of guy to make comments like, "she's hot". ha ha I wouldn't care if he did but it's nice that he shows me and our relationship that kind of respect. Great post.
We were JUST having this conversation last night, about how bad regular TV has gotten. Even subscription TV has gotten insane - some of the stuff I see on there is simply for shock value now, and it works.
But, i'm with you... how am I supposed to give up my TV addictions? I like to think that when I become a mom, my priorities will change, and protecting my babies will be more important than a TV plot line... but right now, I can't imagine not seeing my shows!
Tv is terrible these days! I am hoping I can break my TV habit and have a mostly TV free household when kiddos come along! I do however think you should change your VS only shopping habbits if you truly have a problem with their ad campaigns. I mean, they are selling 'sexy' in their store and wont change as long as people are buying it. You spending $ there is telling them their ads work. Gotta vote with your dollars, plenty of places sell fancy underwears these days! :)
I completely agree! I always look down when a sex scene (or even a heavy makeout scene) comes on because I don't want to pollute my mind with that stuff.
I worked at a summer camp and I had a number of girls who watched adult shows that make ME feel uncomfortable! And they would talk about said shows. One of my camper's mom even sent her some photos from the Bad Girls Club! Needless to say, I had to confiscate those from her.
When I have kids, I won't let them watch tv except for DVDs of I Love Lucy, the Brady Bunch, and Little House on the Prairie because even the kids shows these days can be somewhat inappropriate.
I think it's annoying, but it's just my own insecurity. I know they are beautiful women, and were blessed with a BANGING BOD, and I agree that maybe we don't all need to see it.
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The media is a scary, scary thing. It's amazing the kinds of sexual material that even "family friendly" shows are now able to screen. I was teaching second grade the other day and had to make a legitimate sexual assault report because some students were saying wildly inappropriate things to me, making crazy innuendos, and touching my butt. SEVEN YEAR OLDS! Sure does bring a whole new meaning to guarding your heart.
I totally agree! The other day my husband, my parents, and I went to see a movie and I think the F word was used just about every five words. It was ridiculous. When these heavy sex scenes and things come on it is frightening and embarrassing. I know another couple where the man will look at her during those times as well as even in a grocery when another women might walk by in something too tight or inappropriate. I think that this is teaching our youth some very bad things. I teach high school and I can already see the differences in these students from when I was in high school a mere 9 years ago. It is depressing.
My hubby will cover his eyes with his hands when VS commercials come on - half as a joke at how ridiculously revealing the women are dressed, but half serious that he doesn't want to be looking at anyone but his wife in that kind of outfit :) Oh, and the language!? Really, can the writers not think of anything else to express their point other than profanity? Or people in real life for that matter...I agree with you 100%. Thanks for posting this :)
We're planning to have kids in the next few years as well, and we've discussed a lot of things about what we want to expose our kids to. We plan to not have cable and only use DVDs of shows we know are safe for them to watch for as long as possible (without making them too sheltered). We also have a really hard time with the use of electronics as a babysitter. The simplicity of being a kid when we were growing up is gone, and we want to try to incorporate as much of that as possible for our kids. It's really sad that everything has become "normal" when it's raunchy and inappropriate! I'm so glad you posted this!
I do think that shows go too far nowdays...especially if they are on network television. I expect the raunchy stuff from cable shows (NOT ABC FAMILY THOUGH! lol)...but network television has definitely expanded their boundaries on what they will and will not show. But...like you said...how in the world would I give up Grey's?!!? Sigh.
Totally agree! While I still watch those shows, and feel like I have become somewhat desensitized to all the nudity, bad language and sex, sex, sex, it still makes me uncomfortable, especially knowing that my 17 year old sister grew up with this, and has a totally different take on those things than I do having grown up a decade earlier than her. And your comments about VS are spot on! No "real" woman, or any woman who is not a celebrity and/or model looks like that. Besides the fact that the printed ads are totally photoshopped.
So glad you stepped up and said something. I agree whole hearted. Some may call me a prude but a lot of things make me uncomfortable. It's not because I'm insecure or because I'm a controlling wife. It's because I love my husband and I don't want to throw him into the lions den so to speak. It's super important to us to keep our morals and standards high so we don't become numb to the media around us.
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Amen! My husband didn't have anything but cable growing up. I always rolled my eyes at how dramatic his parents were for removing him so outside the realm of reality. Now that we're starting our own family, we're leaning towards not having tv with our kids either. That way you can honestly decide exactly what it is you want your kids watching. Everything seen in my family can be screened.
I feel like one of those stuck up- strict parents I loathed when I was a kid...
this is why i don't watch tv. I do watch some netflix but I can screen it by googling the show first. I don't like any of the shows you mentioned, because I'm a huge nerd. I like, uh, Dr. Who and things like that. *nerd girl* but a lot of my friends watch pretty little liars (no offense that show looks just like a soap opera and when I saw like 6 min of it one time I was like OMG this show is like highschool and facebook on steroids but to each his own)
Pros of netflix: no commercials.
I totally understand what you are saying, and agree wholeheartedly.
I agree with you completely! You can't watch anything anymore without censoring it first. Even if you do manage to find a good and wholesome show the commercials will get you.
My fiance does the same thing, he always looks away when something awkward comes on the screen. He has always done that even before we were dating.
I love this post! I agree completely. I read a few weeks ago someone posted about them getting embarrassed when she found out she was pregnant because then people would know that they were intimate. However, they were married. I found that so funny but I agreed. Yes, I am married too but that doesn't mean I have to talk about what happens behind closed doors with my husband and I. Television and media now-a-days are awful with what they find acceptable. I'm really happy you posted this.
I have a 20 month old little boy. I've been dating my now-husband since we were 15. As a wife/parent/woman-in-general, it grates on my last nerve when I hear people insinuate that as a man (say that in a caveman "me man!" voice), my husband has any interest in strip clubs or scantily clad women or a woman who isn't me. He thinks it's disrespectful for people to insinuate something about men being barbaric creatures, offensive to think he values his wife so little (and any future daughters he may have). We're Atheists, and I hate when that is thrown into the "sans morals" mix because, well, let's just say in so many words that traditionally speaking, yeah, my wedding dress was white for a reason.
I've always been a feminist. So is my mother. My father, well, he has two daughters. There was never any place for the degradation of women in my life. A woman is equal to a man, and everyone should be respected for their brains and content of their character, period.
As a parent, it doesn't scare me, what's out there. I've managed to be 27 years old, have an adult relationship and friendships and a child and somehow not involve it in my life. My son will be raised to know that we respect women -- be it a future spouse, future sister, his mother, grandmother, aunt, etc. -- and that this strange sexualization is anything but okay and everyone is more than just a worthless body. We're a pretty liberal, open household. There's little that can possibly offend me. I know I can raise my son (and any future children) the same.
The ONLY THING that my husband and I have noted terrifies us is the TV Guide channel. You know, where the titles and channels scroll down to show you what's on at that time. There seems to be no way to block out the pornographic channels -- not in the sense they could be clicked on, but because some of the names...they're so vulgar, I can't even repeat them. (And, sorry, some of them don't even seem like they should be legal.) It kills my brain to see those words on the screen and how terrible they truly are, and I worry about my child having to read those one day and how scary it must be. But, really, I never watched TV until I was 25 and on pregnancy bedrest so I guess all things can be avoidable somehow.
I'm with you 100%! I've heard horror stories about ABC family and what they are teaching ouut kids. And sadly, with solid parenting going by the wayside, tv shows and friends at school are what is raising our kids. :(
Oh girl, I am completely with you! It's really amazing (well more like tragic) when you think of how back in the era of I Love Lucy, they were so careful to keep certain things off limits (like Lucy and Desi having seperate beds in their bedroom, haha), and now it's a complete 180 to the point in they're *not* showing everything, they're thought of as stifling or not expressing themselves. I wonder how many of us have grown complacent and just take it for what it is (I know sometime I catch myself not blushing at some inuendo or something and that being like, "Kelly, what's wrong with you?" I wonder what happened to our society's ability to blush... so sad actually.
Great post! I read it earlier and didn't get a chance to comment until now. But I couldn't agree move. I'm thankful I have a husband who is pretty much oblivious to any boobs, I'm the sensitive one. But he respects that and we don't watch garbage either. He wants to stay strong in his faith and not fill our marriage with garbage. He was actually an actor for many years out in LA and after all the years out there he had had enough because 80% of the projects are just trash! We both wish there was more quality tv!
Kaitlyn, I agree with you. It blows my mind when I hear my firsties talk about how they saw the new scary movie or certain TV shows. There are no boundaries any more, and that's just sad!
Yea there's alot of skin showing and shows that have nudity and vulgar language. and it's not just tv shows. it's movies too.
The one movie all females are talking about. Magic Mike. I downloaded it and ended up turning it off within like 20 to 30 minutes because Matthew Macanhay used the F word several times and I couldnt stand it. It was F this, F that. It gets old. so I didnt watch that movie after that and i'm not big on half naked men dancing in a movie for a long period of time. I dont even like strip clubs or understand why men who are in a relationship or even married go to them.
I'm with you on the only wanting your man to have eyes for you. that's what I want my man to be like. that is when i get one. LOL
You're totally right! And I know I'm completely guilty of watching a lot of shows that have that kind of stuff, and it makes me uncomfortable. And growing up, my mom was the same. We weren't allowed to watch a lot of television shows and movies, and she didn't watch them either. It really makes you think about your own future children. This world is constantly changing, and it doesn't seem to be headed in a good direction sometimes.
I agree with you. We've had to really start watching what our little guy watches lately. We do occasionally let him watch a movie that isn't age appropriate (like transformers) but generally he's restricted to watching kids shows. We've also noticed that the older he got that he would have nightmares from watching certain things. This is when we started cracking down on that stuff. That being said, I took him to McDonald's at the end of last year and was disturbed to hear kids talking about the Walking Dead (and they were 5)!
Hey! New follower- and I loved this post. I say AMEN. I am so over boob shots and dirty raunchy scenes. Now don't get me wrong, I love me some Pretty Little Liars and perhaps a little Dextar on the side... but do they REALLY have to always have boob shots? I mean- sure. I guess it appeals to single depressed horney dudes out there. But isn't the target market for Pretty Little Liars women ranging from teens to twenties? I have my own- thanks much. haha! ;)
Anyway, loved your post and your blog. ~Nichole via "Isn't She Beautiful"
I agree with you completely! I can barely watch TV with my mom without freaking out when they curse like sailors or have all these raunchy sex scenes! Do you know what Cartoon Network plays after dark? Adult swim cartoon is terrible. My future babies will likely not watch tv unless its locked down and totally censored!
Oh man I agree. I remember when the the Tony Award shows came on and my mother complained that it was HBO shows that won. Her complaint was that the HBO shows show sex scenes but every show does. "Dancing with the Stars" is a great show but there outfits!! They look nude! Or any other show. I sometimes wonder where we should draw the line. Maybe, just maybe we should write a letter to congress, or someone to tell them. If we all join together we might get something.
The biggest problem I have (possibly the one problem I have, aside from boredom with the repetitiveness of it all), is that it propagates unrealistic expectations about how the human body is supposed to look. As you said. And every time someone tunes in, or buys that magazine, or purchases from a store that is playing up that unrealistic measure, they are voting in favor of continuing it. I'm not saying you're a bad person for buying VS undies, but everyone should be aware that the way they spend their money is a "vote" in favor of that company's current ad campaign. If you don't like what they are doing, tell them that and don't give them your cash- otherwise, they see it as more profit = this ad campaign is working = we will continue this line of approach for future ad campaigns.
I agree with you 100%! I am absolutely terrified by the world that my son is growing up in. Every since I got pregnant with him I have become way more sensitive to the things I watch or even listen to while I'm around him, but even on my own. Like you said, it really makes you realize that you yourself probably shouldn't be subjecting yourself to those kinds of obscenities either. No matter how much we tell ourselves that watching/listening to that stuff doesn't affect us, it does. The violence too! I was just recently horrified when I watched the movie "Lawless"! The violence was so gruesome and the characters that where supposed to be perceived as the "good guys" where awful! It's kind of sickening when you think about what we as a culture call ENTERTAINMENT nowadays. I'm so glad you wrote this post!
I could not agree with you more! I am so glad when I see women like you that are not afraid to say, "Excuse me, you call that filth entertainment?" And mad props to your hubby for being such a wonderful and respectful man. This world needs more men like that and more women like you who don't buy into the oversexification (hey, I made up a word!) that is taking place in the media.
Hi I hopped here from http://www.lifeinabreakdown.com/i-love-my-post-25/ I agree the film labels are getting lax. What wouldhave been an 18 when I was a kid is a 15 cert these days. :-/
Omgoodness, I totally agree. It's so disappointing. I mean, I know the USA is last when it comes to censoring (or lack there of)-- Europe is way beyond tasteful. But it's so sad how it is now a days. Making things like drug, cheating, and other once scandalous things seem "normal." I read an article about how some celebrity was really upset about how she had to wear CLOTHES to an award show --- um... WHAT???
I could not agree with you more. They have Sports Illustrated (Swimsuit Edition) displays all over the grocery store where I work and I hate it. We're teaching children before they can even talk to sexualize women. It's this kind of message that women are merely sexual objects that continues to allow gender discrimination to occur, and frankly pisses me off. Not only that, but the displays are right at a child's eyeline. What is so wrong with wanting to preserve a child's innocence and purity for as long as possible?!
I totally agree about Victoria's Secret. I love their clothes and undergarments but the commercials make me so uncomfortable. No one (not even the models) lives like that on a daily basis so it's completely unrealistic and wrong to have that in their advertising. They starve themselves for days and/or weeks to get ready for these big events but a lot of women don't realize that. I never realized how bad it had gotten until we went to see a Flight (the movie) in the theater. The entire first 5 minutes were a naked girl walking around and them doing drugs. We walked out because a few of our friends and myself were so uncomfortable. We rented it and just fast forwarded the nasty parts but it's really sad that we have to do that.
I absolutely love your blog! You have so many cute ideas and posts! But to go along with this one...I totally agree! I think it is so disrespectful how VS portrays women and for our husbands to oogle at the tv when it comes on! That is my pet peeve I also HATE the Carl's Jr commercials
I couldn't respond to you through email, but the Carl's Jr. commercials always get ridiculous comments from me and Ryan...they are so out of control considering they are selling HAMBURGERS lol
I couldnt agree with you more! i dont have kids but i have nieces and nephews and they always ask me "untie if thats bad why do they show it" seriously they need to monitor what they put on tv! if us as adults get uncomfortable i can only imgine the kids!!
Kaitlyn!! I could not have said it better! For real, I feel the same way about Victoria's Secret and mega sexified media.
I remember going on an out-of-state class trip a year or so ago, and my group of friends and I were hanging in our hotel room. We were flipping through the TV channels when one of my friends saw that the VS Fashion Show was on. I was the only one who didn't want to watch it, so I just sat uncomfortably listening to my friends gushing about the lingerie and envying the models wearing it.
I seriously started to wonder if that's how I was supposed to look and act. Are girls supposed to be that sexy? Why do her boobs look like they're raised up to her neck? (I didn't know what a push-up bra was...)
I am completely past that point now, thank goodness!! Lol. But I still agree with you, and am very tired of this over-sexed world. Great post!
LOVE this post. I also only buy VS under garments, mostly because I know they're good and they last but I also hate the marketing. When I lived at home and would receive the mags we'd instantly toss them because my brother and dad, didn't need to fill their minds with half naked - air brushed models!
I once heard 'what goes in, comes out'. I'm also guilty of watching the Bachelor which is pretty much trash and should probably give that up but I'm sadly sucked into another season :/.
Either way, I loved this post - thanks for speaking your mind lady!
I completely agree with you! It's sad how bad the media has gotten. And people wonder why most teenagers act the way they do... It's so hard to find a good movie, I don't trust the PG-13 ratings because most of them should be R. We don't have cable right now which I don't mind because of all the commercials. But when we get cable DVR is a must so we can record and fast forward through the commercials.
I agree totally! I was actually discussing this with my sister the other day...and about the hidden messages in the media, music, even in Disney. This is a way for us to be controlled - think that this is normal, this is how we should act, etc. Why is there such an increase in reality shows as compared to say 5 years ago? This vicious cycle will keep them feeding us these things and keep us wanting more.
Not that i don't enjoy some of the ABC Family shows, but I am shocked that the content is shown on a Family channel. When I have kids, I'm canceling cable. My children can read...and whatever happened to the Babysitters Club and Boxcar children?
I found your post by way of Kayla from The Green Mountain Couple. She mentioned it as one of her favorites in her Weekly Round-Up post this weekend.
I agree with you on this 100%
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I teach middle school students and they are watching southpark, family guy, bachelor. They are to young. I feel so many shows are inappropriate for me but and I would never let my kids watch them. Andrew and I have had the discussion that we are going to have to change our tv watching. I want my kids to group up like I did not like how I watch my students
ReplyDeleteI agree with you all the way. I have been noticing this for a while now. I can't believe that some regular station shows say things like the d word or I've even seen them say arsehole or something. The sex talk, let's not even go there. I watch Two Broke Girls and I'm about to stop because it's like enough already! I get it, you will make anything sound perverted. It's like hanging out with a dude that just won't stop doing that to anything you say. It's so annoying.
ReplyDeleteMy teenage stepdaughters have seen The Hangover. The Hangover for God's sake! I almost had a heart attack when I heard that. The things they watch whether with their mothers permission or not just makes me wonder. I think movies and things of that nature are just too accessible to kids nowadays.
I couldn't agree more when it comes to the VS commercials, but thankful we have the hopper and never watch the naked ladies in underwear. What really gets me is how they are allowed to say "GD" on T.V. I cringe every time I hear it. We've had to change the kiddos T.V. habits from Nick to the Hub, because of all the preteen content. Its only going to get worse because the major of the world are Godless and don't realize that there is a problem.
ReplyDeleteumm yeah, it's pretty bad. And once you have kids of your own, you won't watch any of your shows until they go to bed (but that's ok, bc little ones go to bed early). Every once in a while I will turn on the news when my kids are awake to catch the weather and all they are talking about is murder....sheesh! I don't really want my toddlers hearing about that either.
ReplyDeleteIt does terrify me a bit as a mom, to know what my kids will grow up to. Every night we pray that the Lord will protect their hearts, minds, and bodies. We just have to pray and trust that even in a dark world the Lord can use us a parents to guide, mold and protect or children.
I totally agree with you. I'm surprised what can even be said in commercials or teasers for new episodes.
ReplyDeleteI really agree with you! I'm reading this book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" that addresses these topics. It's so crazy that the media sends all of these images at us 24/7 that we need to be so raunchy. Good for you for taking a stand!
ReplyDeleteGirl I agree 100% with everything you said in this post... Even shows on Disney, there's times when we just look at each other and say "did they really just say that?!" It definitely makes me more nervous about when I think about having kids!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree!!! We do have 2 small (small as in eight and under) children and the hubby and I are always talking how bad tv/movies have got. We are very picky about what they watch as well. And I have noticed over the years we can't watch things that we maybe once would have. For example we rented a movie the other night we had heard so many people say it was great and or funny etc. Well we only made it into all of 5-10 minutes of the movie and decided we needed to take it out. I am saddened by our media.
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Yep! I'm only 18 and I know the media has gone too far! (Okay. I'm only 18, but I have four younger siblings and teach piano to kids, run kids community programs, and a middle school youth leader. I have the nick name "mama Caitlin.") I don't like these things being shown as normal! My 16 and 13 year old sisters don't need to see having sex with their boyfriend in middle school as normal. They don't need to see underage drinking as normal. Drugas as normal. Ect ect! It goes on and on! Or these girls bein taught their identity comes from how guys see them! And that's just not right! As a big sister this infuriates me! Granted, I don't want my sister to be overly sheltered and not be able to handle the world when they are older. But I also don't want them emersed in this! The middle school down the street from here has a major teen pregnancy issue! Middle schoolers! It breaks my heart for them!
ReplyDeleteI TOTALLY agree! As a former teacher, I was appalled at some of the stuff that my students (MS and HS) were watching. When I was a kid, there were VERY few shows that I was allowed to watch. While I was upset about it at the time, I'm grateful for it now. My husband and I don't have cable, which helps to limit the availability of shows, but is great for ensuring that our daughter doesn't see anything inappropriate.
ReplyDeleteThe use of language and the overt promotion of sex and other risky behaviors is disgusting and disturbing. It really makes me sad.
I totally agree with you! Watching movies in an actual movie theater is almost out of the question any more because ratings have changed so much. All of this is giving the men in this world a distorted view on women.
ReplyDeleteYes! Totally...TOTALLY agree! I could actually talk about this for days...seriously so i don't even know where to begin. I struggle with body image badly...it's many battle, but the media doesn't help. I whole heartedly worry about our young girls today...especially the daughters I don't have yet. I worry about helping my future son(s) not to view women that way. Single Dad Laughing had a great post on this topic. I may come back and link to it. Though it's more geared toward body image and men's part in it versus media. Sorry so lengthy. Good topic I guess :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with you about the TV shows, they have gotten way out of hand. But as for commercials, I think VS is right on he money. Women want to feel sexy and look great for their significant other. But the commercials like Hardys or Carl's junior or Go Daddy are outrageous. The sex that they play off in those commercials are not related at all to their brand.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you 100%. My husband does the same thing. Has your husband read the book "Every Man's Battle".... it's about this exact topic. My husband has been "bouncing" his eyes ever since... and we read that book 5 years ago. It's amazing how happy it makes me feel that he respects me enough to fast forward, look away, or not pursue that kind of visuals. I love this post.
ReplyDeleteYes! I completely agree! I am raising two daughters and am very concerned about the images the media portrays for them. Not to mention protecting my son from the barrage of images he will be hit with as he gets older. There are many shows and movies that my husband and I have stopped watching, because we don't want to put those types of images into our minds either.
ReplyDeleteThis is probably the reason I, along with every single adult, at my old school were disrespected on a DAILY basis. I was SO appalled at the youth of America...I always told everyone society is going downhill. It was enough to make me want to home-school my (future) children. I agree, Kaitlyn. When will too much be too much?
ReplyDeleteGirl. You hit the nail on the head with this one! Props to you for writing about it! I couldn't agree more with how raunchy and bad things have gotten in the media with what they will allow to be shown. VS is definitely crossing the line these days with how unrealistic their views of women are and I applaud your husband for being so respectful of you!
ReplyDeleteI AGREE 100 PERCENT.
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ReplyDeleteI agree 50/50. I don't mind the VS commercials, I mean if I had a body and face like those girls I'd be first in line to apply for the position. Although, If it's not the VS secret models men fantasize it'll be the women on the Frederick's of Hollywood site.
ReplyDeleteI do agree there is more sex, drugs and all that jazz on regular TV. It's down right disgusting. I have a 17 year old bonus son, and at 11 he could see this stuff on TV. His mom didn't mind what he watched, but I sure did. What the hell are TV producers thinking now days with all the raw television?
I couldn't agree more. I love that my husband will distract my daughters when the VS commercials come on. He has never been the kind of guy to make comments like, "she's hot". ha ha I wouldn't care if he did but it's nice that he shows me and our relationship that kind of respect. Great post.
ReplyDeleteWe were JUST having this conversation last night, about how bad regular TV has gotten. Even subscription TV has gotten insane - some of the stuff I see on there is simply for shock value now, and it works.
ReplyDeleteBut, i'm with you... how am I supposed to give up my TV addictions? I like to think that when I become a mom, my priorities will change, and protecting my babies will be more important than a TV plot line... but right now, I can't imagine not seeing my shows!
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Tv is terrible these days! I am hoping I can break my TV habit and have a mostly TV free household when kiddos come along! I do however think you should change your VS only shopping habbits if you truly have a problem with their ad campaigns. I mean, they are selling 'sexy' in their store and wont change as long as people are buying it. You spending $ there is telling them their ads work. Gotta vote with your dollars, plenty of places sell fancy underwears these days! :)
ReplyDeleteI completely agree! I always look down when a sex scene (or even a heavy makeout scene) comes on because I don't want to pollute my mind with that stuff.
ReplyDeleteI worked at a summer camp and I had a number of girls who watched adult shows that make ME feel uncomfortable! And they would talk about said shows. One of my camper's mom even sent her some photos from the Bad Girls Club! Needless to say, I had to confiscate those from her.
When I have kids, I won't let them watch tv except for DVDs of I Love Lucy, the Brady Bunch, and Little House on the Prairie because even the kids shows these days can be somewhat inappropriate.
I think it's annoying, but it's just my own insecurity. I know they are beautiful women, and were blessed with a BANGING BOD, and I agree that maybe we don't all need to see it.
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The media is a scary, scary thing. It's amazing the kinds of sexual material that even "family friendly" shows are now able to screen. I was teaching second grade the other day and had to make a legitimate sexual assault report because some students were saying wildly inappropriate things to me, making crazy innuendos, and touching my butt. SEVEN YEAR OLDS! Sure does bring a whole new meaning to guarding your heart.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree! The other day my husband, my parents, and I went to see a movie and I think the F word was used just about every five words. It was ridiculous. When these heavy sex scenes and things come on it is frightening and embarrassing. I know another couple where the man will look at her during those times as well as even in a grocery when another women might walk by in something too tight or inappropriate. I think that this is teaching our youth some very bad things. I teach high school and I can already see the differences in these students from when I was in high school a mere 9 years ago. It is depressing.
ReplyDeleteThanks for writing this post!
I agree with you 100%!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby will cover his eyes with his hands when VS commercials come on - half as a joke at how ridiculously revealing the women are dressed, but half serious that he doesn't want to be looking at anyone but his wife in that kind of outfit :) Oh, and the language!? Really, can the writers not think of anything else to express their point other than profanity? Or people in real life for that matter...I agree with you 100%. Thanks for posting this :)
ReplyDeleteWe're planning to have kids in the next few years as well, and we've discussed a lot of things about what we want to expose our kids to. We plan to not have cable and only use DVDs of shows we know are safe for them to watch for as long as possible (without making them too sheltered). We also have a really hard time with the use of electronics as a babysitter. The simplicity of being a kid when we were growing up is gone, and we want to try to incorporate as much of that as possible for our kids. It's really sad that everything has become "normal" when it's raunchy and inappropriate! I'm so glad you posted this!
ReplyDeleteI do think that shows go too far nowdays...especially if they are on network television. I expect the raunchy stuff from cable shows (NOT ABC FAMILY THOUGH! lol)...but network television has definitely expanded their boundaries on what they will and will not show. But...like you said...how in the world would I give up Grey's?!!? Sigh.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree! While I still watch those shows, and feel like I have become somewhat desensitized to all the nudity, bad language and sex, sex, sex, it still makes me uncomfortable, especially knowing that my 17 year old sister grew up with this, and has a totally different take on those things than I do having grown up a decade earlier than her. And your comments about VS are spot on! No "real" woman, or any woman who is not a celebrity and/or model looks like that. Besides the fact that the printed ads are totally photoshopped.
ReplyDeleteSo glad you stepped up and said something. I agree whole hearted.
ReplyDeleteSome may call me a prude but a lot of things make me uncomfortable. It's not because I'm insecure or because I'm a controlling wife. It's because I love my husband and I don't want to throw him into the lions den so to speak. It's super important to us to keep our morals and standards high so we don't become numb to the media around us.
Thanks for the great post.
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Oh man, I totally agree!!
ReplyDeleteAmen! My husband didn't have anything but cable growing up. I always rolled my eyes at how dramatic his parents were for removing him so outside the realm of reality. Now that we're starting our own family, we're leaning towards not having tv with our kids either. That way you can honestly decide exactly what it is you want your kids watching. Everything seen in my family can be screened.
ReplyDeleteI feel like one of those stuck up- strict parents I loathed when I was a kid...
this is why i don't watch tv. I do watch some netflix but I can screen it by googling the show first. I don't like any of the shows you mentioned, because I'm a huge nerd. I like, uh, Dr. Who and things like that. *nerd girl* but a lot of my friends watch pretty little liars (no offense that show looks just like a soap opera and when I saw like 6 min of it one time I was like OMG this show is like highschool and facebook on steroids but to each his own)
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I totally understand what you are saying, and agree wholeheartedly.
Great post, so glad to know that there are decent men like Ryan and Kevin out there. Just wish we didn't have to censor our future kids so much!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you completely! You can't watch anything anymore without censoring it first. Even if you do manage to find a good and wholesome show the commercials will get you.
ReplyDeleteMy fiance does the same thing, he always looks away when something awkward comes on the screen. He has always done that even before we were dating.
I love this post! I agree completely. I read a few weeks ago someone posted about them getting embarrassed when she found out she was pregnant because then people would know that they were intimate. However, they were married. I found that so funny but I agreed. Yes, I am married too but that doesn't mean I have to talk about what happens behind closed doors with my husband and I. Television and media now-a-days are awful with what they find acceptable. I'm really happy you posted this.
ReplyDeleteI have a 20 month old little boy. I've been dating my now-husband since we were 15. As a wife/parent/woman-in-general, it grates on my last nerve when I hear people insinuate that as a man (say that in a caveman "me man!" voice), my husband has any interest in strip clubs or scantily clad women or a woman who isn't me. He thinks it's disrespectful for people to insinuate something about men being barbaric creatures, offensive to think he values his wife so little (and any future daughters he may have). We're Atheists, and I hate when that is thrown into the "sans morals" mix because, well, let's just say in so many words that traditionally speaking, yeah, my wedding dress was white for a reason.
ReplyDeleteI've always been a feminist. So is my mother. My father, well, he has two daughters. There was never any place for the degradation of women in my life. A woman is equal to a man, and everyone should be respected for their brains and content of their character, period.
As a parent, it doesn't scare me, what's out there. I've managed to be 27 years old, have an adult relationship and friendships and a child and somehow not involve it in my life. My son will be raised to know that we respect women -- be it a future spouse, future sister, his mother, grandmother, aunt, etc. -- and that this strange sexualization is anything but okay and everyone is more than just a worthless body. We're a pretty liberal, open household. There's little that can possibly offend me. I know I can raise my son (and any future children) the same.
The ONLY THING that my husband and I have noted terrifies us is the TV Guide channel. You know, where the titles and channels scroll down to show you what's on at that time. There seems to be no way to block out the pornographic channels -- not in the sense they could be clicked on, but because some of the names...they're so vulgar, I can't even repeat them. (And, sorry, some of them don't even seem like they should be legal.) It kills my brain to see those words on the screen and how terrible they truly are, and I worry about my child having to read those one day and how scary it must be. But, really, I never watched TV until I was 25 and on pregnancy bedrest so I guess all things can be avoidable somehow.
I'm with you 100%! I've heard horror stories about ABC family and what they are teaching ouut kids. And sadly, with solid parenting going by the wayside, tv shows and friends at school are what is raising our kids. :(
ReplyDeleteit is crazy at how horrible everything is these days. at some points you just want to watch older shows and not deal with whats on right now.
ReplyDeleteOh girl, I am completely with you! It's really amazing (well more like tragic) when you think of how back in the era of I Love Lucy, they were so careful to keep certain things off limits (like Lucy and Desi having seperate beds in their bedroom, haha), and now it's a complete 180 to the point in they're *not* showing everything, they're thought of as stifling or not expressing themselves. I wonder how many of us have grown complacent and just take it for what it is (I know sometime I catch myself not blushing at some inuendo or something and that being like, "Kelly, what's wrong with you?" I wonder what happened to our society's ability to blush... so sad actually.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I read it earlier and didn't get a chance to comment until now. But I couldn't agree move. I'm thankful I have a husband who is pretty much oblivious to any boobs, I'm the sensitive one. But he respects that and we don't watch garbage either. He wants to stay strong in his faith and not fill our marriage with garbage. He was actually an actor for many years out in LA and after all the years out there he had had enough because 80% of the projects are just trash! We both wish there was more quality tv!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. Nothing is off limits anymore and I don't think its healthy for our minds.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree, it's disgusting! I refuse to shop at VS because of the way they advertise, it's repulsive!!
ReplyDeleteKaitlyn, I agree with you. It blows my mind when I hear my firsties talk about how they saw the new scary movie or certain TV shows. There are no boundaries any more, and that's just sad!
ReplyDeletewow....48 comments on one topic. way to go. LOL
ReplyDeleteYea there's alot of skin showing and shows that have nudity and vulgar language. and it's not just tv shows. it's movies too.
The one movie all females are talking about. Magic Mike. I downloaded it and ended up turning it off within like 20 to 30 minutes because Matthew Macanhay used the F word several times and I couldnt stand it. It was F this, F that. It gets old. so I didnt watch that movie after that and i'm not big on half naked men dancing in a movie for a long period of time. I dont even like strip clubs or understand why men who are in a relationship or even married go to them.
I'm with you on the only wanting your man to have eyes for you. that's what I want my man to be like. that is when i get one. LOL
100% agree! It is really scary what are kids will see!
ReplyDeleteI completely agree & I'm blessed to say my husband is like yours in this sense! :)
ReplyDeleteYou're totally right! And I know I'm completely guilty of watching a lot of shows that have that kind of stuff, and it makes me uncomfortable. And growing up, my mom was the same. We weren't allowed to watch a lot of television shows and movies, and she didn't watch them either. It really makes you think about your own future children. This world is constantly changing, and it doesn't seem to be headed in a good direction sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. We've had to really start watching what our little guy watches lately. We do occasionally let him watch a movie that isn't age appropriate (like transformers) but generally he's restricted to watching kids shows. We've also noticed that the older he got that he would have nightmares from watching certain things. This is when we started cracking down on that stuff. That being said, I took him to McDonald's at the end of last year and was disturbed to hear kids talking about the Walking Dead (and they were 5)!
ReplyDeleteHey! New follower- and I loved this post. I say AMEN. I am so over boob shots and dirty raunchy scenes. Now don't get me wrong, I love me some Pretty Little Liars and perhaps a little Dextar on the side... but do they REALLY have to always have boob shots? I mean- sure. I guess it appeals to single depressed horney dudes out there. But isn't the target market for Pretty Little Liars women ranging from teens to twenties? I have my own- thanks much. haha! ;)
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I agree with you completely! I can barely watch TV with my mom without freaking out when they curse like sailors or have all these raunchy sex scenes! Do you know what Cartoon Network plays after dark? Adult swim cartoon is terrible. My future babies will likely not watch tv unless its locked down and totally censored!
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Well written.
ReplyDeleteOh man I agree. I remember when the the Tony Award shows came on and my mother complained that it was HBO shows that won. Her complaint was that the HBO shows show sex scenes but every show does. "Dancing with the Stars" is a great show but there outfits!! They look nude! Or any other show. I sometimes wonder where we should draw the line. Maybe, just maybe we should write a letter to congress, or someone to tell them. If we all join together we might get something.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest problem I have (possibly the one problem I have, aside from boredom with the repetitiveness of it all), is that it propagates unrealistic expectations about how the human body is supposed to look. As you said. And every time someone tunes in, or buys that magazine, or purchases from a store that is playing up that unrealistic measure, they are voting in favor of continuing it. I'm not saying you're a bad person for buying VS undies, but everyone should be aware that the way they spend their money is a "vote" in favor of that company's current ad campaign. If you don't like what they are doing, tell them that and don't give them your cash- otherwise, they see it as more profit = this ad campaign is working = we will continue this line of approach for future ad campaigns.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100%! I am absolutely terrified by the world that my son is growing up in. Every since I got pregnant with him I have become way more sensitive to the things I watch or even listen to while I'm around him, but even on my own. Like you said, it really makes you realize that you yourself probably shouldn't be subjecting yourself to those kinds of obscenities either. No matter how much we tell ourselves that watching/listening to that stuff doesn't affect us, it does. The violence too! I was just recently horrified when I watched the movie "Lawless"! The violence was so gruesome and the characters that where supposed to be perceived as the "good guys" where awful! It's kind of sickening when you think about what we as a culture call ENTERTAINMENT nowadays.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you wrote this post!
I could not agree with you more! I am so glad when I see women like you that are not afraid to say, "Excuse me, you call that filth entertainment?" And mad props to your hubby for being such a wonderful and respectful man. This world needs more men like that and more women like you who don't buy into the oversexification (hey, I made up a word!) that is taking place in the media.
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ReplyDeleteI agree the film labels are getting lax. What wouldhave been an 18 when I was a kid is a 15 cert these days. :-/
Omgoodness, I totally agree. It's so disappointing. I mean, I know the USA is last when it comes to censoring (or lack there of)-- Europe is way beyond tasteful. But it's so sad how it is now a days. Making things like drug, cheating, and other once scandalous things seem "normal." I read an article about how some celebrity was really upset about how she had to wear CLOTHES to an award show --- um... WHAT???
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I could not agree with you more. They have Sports Illustrated (Swimsuit Edition) displays all over the grocery store where I work and I hate it. We're teaching children before they can even talk to sexualize women. It's this kind of message that women are merely sexual objects that continues to allow gender discrimination to occur, and frankly pisses me off. Not only that, but the displays are right at a child's eyeline. What is so wrong with wanting to preserve a child's innocence and purity for as long as possible?!
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I totally agree about Victoria's Secret. I love their clothes and undergarments but the commercials make me so uncomfortable. No one (not even the models) lives like that on a daily basis so it's completely unrealistic and wrong to have that in their advertising. They starve themselves for days and/or weeks to get ready for these big events but a lot of women don't realize that. I never realized how bad it had gotten until we went to see a Flight (the movie) in the theater. The entire first 5 minutes were a naked girl walking around and them doing drugs. We walked out because a few of our friends and myself were so uncomfortable. We rented it and just fast forwarded the nasty parts but it's really sad that we have to do that.
ReplyDeleteI absolutely love your blog! You have so many cute ideas and posts! But to go along with this one...I totally agree! I think it is so disrespectful how VS portrays women and for our husbands to oogle at the tv when it comes on! That is my pet peeve I also HATE the Carl's Jr commercials
ReplyDeleteI couldn't respond to you through email, but the Carl's Jr. commercials always get ridiculous comments from me and Ryan...they are so out of control considering they are selling HAMBURGERS lol
DeleteI couldnt agree with you more! i dont have kids but i have nieces and nephews and they always ask me "untie if thats bad why do they show it" seriously they need to monitor what they put on tv! if us as adults get uncomfortable i can only imgine the kids!!
ReplyDeleteKaitlyn!! I could not have said it better! For real, I feel the same way about Victoria's Secret and mega sexified media.
ReplyDeleteI remember going on an out-of-state class trip a year or so ago, and my group of friends and I were hanging in our hotel room. We were flipping through the TV channels when one of my friends saw that the VS Fashion Show was on. I was the only one who didn't want to watch it, so I just sat uncomfortably listening to my friends gushing about the lingerie and envying the models wearing it.
I seriously started to wonder if that's how I was supposed to look and act. Are girls supposed to be that sexy? Why do her boobs look like they're raised up to her neck? (I didn't know what a push-up bra was...)
I am completely past that point now, thank goodness!! Lol. But I still agree with you, and am very tired of this over-sexed world. Great post!
Amen!
ReplyDeleteLOVE this post. I also only buy VS under garments, mostly because I know they're good and they last but I also hate the marketing. When I lived at home and would receive the mags we'd instantly toss them because my brother and dad, didn't need to fill their minds with half naked - air brushed models!
I once heard 'what goes in, comes out'. I'm also guilty of watching the Bachelor which is pretty much trash and should probably give that up but I'm sadly sucked into another season :/.
Either way, I loved this post - thanks for speaking your mind lady!
I completely agree with you! It's sad how bad the media has gotten. And people wonder why most teenagers act the way they do... It's so hard to find a good movie, I don't trust the PG-13 ratings because most of them should be R. We don't have cable right now which I don't mind because of all the commercials. But when we get cable DVR is a must so we can record and fast forward through the commercials.
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ReplyDeleteI agree totally! I was actually discussing this with my sister the other day...and about the hidden messages in the media, music, even in Disney. This is a way for us to be controlled - think that this is normal, this is how we should act, etc. Why is there such an increase in reality shows as compared to say 5 years ago? This vicious cycle will keep them feeding us these things and keep us wanting more.
ReplyDeleteNot that i don't enjoy some of the ABC Family shows, but I am shocked that the content is shown on a Family channel. When I have kids, I'm canceling cable. My children can read...and whatever happened to the Babysitters Club and Boxcar children?
ReplyDeleteI found your post by way of Kayla from The Green Mountain Couple. She mentioned it as one of her favorites in her Weekly Round-Up post this weekend.